Saturday, April 29, 2006

MamaSaysOm - Wild

There's me, there's you, and there's this space between us that we call relationship. It's wild, filled with the unknown and all manner of possibility. And this space is almost like it's own living, breathing entity. It includes us but is also separate from our individual existences. It holds all its own dynamics, all its own characteristics, all its own adventures. It's wild, crazy territory to navigate. But wild isn't a negative quality. Wild is adventurous. Wild is discovery. Wild is courageous. Wild is daring, and passionate, and instinctual. Wild is untamed--raw, honest, vulnerable. Wild is a natural state. Wild is what exists before we try to mold it into something it was never meant to be.

What will we take with us into this new territory? Lewis & Clark had a knowledgeable guide. Christopher Columbus had faith. Neil Armstrong, Buzz Aldrin, and Michael Collins had blessing. Jane Goodall had the ability to sit with nature and listen to it, learn from it. Chuck Yeager had his gut instinct. They all, every new pioneer, had desire, determination and a whole lot of fear. And they did it anyway, even with the fear.

We'll take all of this with us as we brave this wild space between us. We'll choose to see wild as something alive and growing and full of beauty. We'll choose to sit with the nature of our relationship and keep traveling further and further inward. Sometimes we'll dance into the space because we know we must. Most of the time we'll do it because we love. We'll slip, we'll fall, we'll step on each other's toes. We'll get tired, we'll get angry, we'll get lost. We'll stand on the mountain top and admire the view, we'll lay in a field of wildflowers and watch the clouds, we'll walk along the beach gathering seashells. We'll get motivated, we'll get inspired, we'll get nourished. And we'll do it every day for the rest of our lives. Even when we're apart that third entity will exist. It will continue to grow, and thrive, and evolve. It will change as we change. It will reflect our hearts--our wounds, our wholeness, our beauty, our shadows, our light. It is wild. And wild is about as alive and honest and true as you can get.

Daring to enter the wild,


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I stumbled upon your blog a few weeks ago, and I Love it! You capture so well what it means to be a woman and a mother. This post especially gets to the depth of what it means to be human. I'm in awe. Thanks for the inspiration!

10:59 PM  
Blogger Server Girl said...

what an adorable picture of Britton...:)

11:16 PM  
Blogger Bohemian Girl said...

i love reading your journey of motherhood.

11:18 PM  
Blogger christina said...

The way you describe it--this is the territory between every relationhip "almost it's own etitity" sums it up so well. Have you read Robert Bly's poem "The Third Body?" I think that's what he was talking about.

Thi was beautifully written. Your son is so lucky to have you!

4:31 AM  
Anonymous maria said...

How very beautiful.

As my son (only child) just left for Ecuador yesterday with his girlfriend, and I have been rather anxious about their safety, I especially liked the line: Even when we're apart that third entity will exist. Yes.

I love your blog, Michelle, and I don't often comment much because most of your posts leave me speechless, but your should know that you are doing such very powerful and courageous work, for yourself and for others, through this blog. So, whaddya know? You may not be a 'minister,' but you do have a ministry.

Blessings :-)

4:37 AM  
Anonymous beansprout said...

Like Christina, I also thought of Robert Bly's "The Third Body". I love the way you describe the terrain that lies inbetween (the relationship). As always...this is wonderfully written and so very touching. Much gratitude for all that you bring here.

5:31 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

I love that photo!

5:55 AM  
Blogger andrea said...

"And wild is about as alive and honest and true as you can get."...

Yes! Great photo, the brown in his shirt with the brown in the playground is fantastic. He is just oozing happiness, love it!


6:33 AM  
Blogger megg said...

amazing. I thought of your words as a wonderful vow between people - between mother and child, between partners, between anyone with that much connection and love. Wow. You have a real gift with words!

12:58 PM  
Blogger Tongue in Cheek Antiques said...

Wild roar and you say and do it all with such grace!

2:15 PM  
Blogger SUEB0B said...

Your deep thoughtful take on motherhood is really refreshing. I love that women have blogs to be able to share these thoughts so easily with so many others. Your post goes so far beyond the usual greeting card sentiments we hear or on the other side, the complaints about bratty kids and dirty diapers.

2:16 PM  
Blogger gkgirl said...

beautifully spoken
and felt

5:31 PM  
Anonymous Irene said...

"the wild space between us", I love this.

11:49 PM  
Blogger Josephine said...

Just beautiful.

12:01 PM  

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