Saturday, December 10, 2005

MamaSaysOm - Heart


Dear Britton,

Like other mothers, there are things I want for you. Of course I want you to be healthy. I want you to be happy. I want you to get an education and have a good head on your shoulders. I want you to contribute to society. I want you to be able to care for yourself. I want you to love and be loved. But I know things happen. Life happens. A tragedy could occur, stripping you of your health and leaving your mind and body broken. Some catastrophe could strike leaving you unable to pursue an education or function as you do now. And god knows that happiness is challenged throughout one's life. Illness strikes. Accidents happen. The unknown is full of all kinds of possibilities that could change your way of functioning and existing. I know this. So there has to be something more I want for you. And there is. There is something more, something deeper. I want you to know value, to trust your significance. I want you to know that no matter what, no matter the circumstances and situation, no matter the condition of your body, mind, or life, no matter your ability to function, you have value--just because you're you--Britton Blake Stoffregen--the only one. Your the only one with your unique perspective and your unique combination of life experiences. You're the only you. And the world needs you--your gifts, your talents, your eyes, your hands, your love, your presence, your story, your spirit. And I want you to have more than "head knowledge" about your value--knowledge you've gained from mom, who was a broken record singing your praises, even slipping into your room at night to whisper affirmations in your ear (You are loved. You are wanted. You are blessed. You are safe. You are valuable. You are perfect, whole, and complete.) I want more for you. I want you to believe for yourself. I want you to believe in yourself. I want you to own it. I want you to have knowledge that can stand even when life issues its challenges. I want you to have "heart knowledge." I want you to push, to explore, to challenge and then come back to your heart. I want you to trust your spirit, your goodness, your journey. I want you to face yourself and know you are good, more than good, so much more than good. You are you and that's always enough. Because you see, value isn't based on doing, what you can accomplish, what you can contribute, what and how much you can do. Value is based on being. Value is constant, despite your ability to do. And this is the value I want you to know. That's what I want for you...more than anything. And I know there will be times when your trust in your significance will be shaken. In those times you must have faith in the little glimpses of worth until those glimpses become a constant way of being. There may be times you have to lean on the loving eyes of others to see your worth until you can once again see it yourself. I pray for you to be surrounded by such loving eyes. So, sweet one, find your heart. Know yourself and trust that knowledge. Value will be found in that knowledge.

And if you ever doubt...because I know there will be times when you doubt,
may this letter remind you.
Mommy

20 Comments:

Blogger acumamakiki said...

Oh, this made me cry. it's so lovely and it's all that I want and wish for, for my Ava girl. I too whisper affirmations into her ears while she sleeps and I hope that in her heart she knows how amazing and incredible she truly is. A gift to this world and to us.
Just beautiful Michelle.

4:52 AM  
Blogger Deb R said...

I wish everyone in the world could have someone telling them these things, over and over until they make the knowledge part of them. You're a good mom.

5:13 AM  
Blogger firstborn studio said...

i am sitting here speechless as how to thank you for what i have just read...
you are a valuable part of my day,
d

5:20 AM  
Blogger Heather said...

That was the most beautiful letter yet. I want this for my kids too. I've said it before and I'll say it again, Britton is very blessed to have you as a mom.

7:05 AM  
Blogger bella said...

That was absolutely beautiful.
You're a wonderful mom.

7:11 AM  
Blogger Toryssa said...

That made me cry, it's exactly what I want for my son.
I doubt my ability to give him a lot of things, and I scare easily at the responsibility of it all...
but this is something that I can give, and do willingly always.

10:32 AM  
Blogger madness rivera said...

Very sweet, La Vie.

3:41 PM  
Anonymous Beansprout said...

Absolutely beautiful. I don't have any children, but all the things you wish for your sweet boy, I wish for myself and those I love. Thank you for sharing your inspiring words. I wish I'd be blessed with a mother like you.

5:54 PM  
Blogger madreperla said...

can I post this wonderful letter in my blog?
it is as much as I would say/feel/think about life/kids and love
thank you for inspiration and emotion, michelle...

6:00 PM  
Blogger liz elayne said...

value based on being...beautiful. Britton is so lucky to have a mother with such heart knowledge and grace.

9:39 PM  
Blogger telfair said...

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful!
Truly.

12:24 AM  
Blogger gkgirl said...

that was amazing...
truly absolutely amazing...
i loved
"value is being"...

2:52 AM  
Blogger kelly said...

i am in love with britton...what is better in life then throwing your face in a slice of pumpkin pie with cool whip! he is my kind of guy.

6:40 AM  
Blogger Frankie said...

Beautiful, inspiring and wonderful as always. Surely Britton has amazing things to offer this world as he is a reflection of you, his loving and talented mother. Your love for him will make him strong and I have no doubt that if he becomes half the person his mother is, he will be twice as remarkable as anyone who's ever graced this earth. Thank you for sharing this phenomenal letter to him.

7:33 AM  
Blogger christina said...

I like that you are always looking for a way to go deeper than just the surface. For it is there, that value is being. You're right. Thank you for your words, your insight. Britton is one lucky little boy to have a mama who loves him so.

12:20 PM  
Anonymous Kitty Kitty Peacock said...

INDULGE! I LOVE this picture. I absolutely adore it. Great image. Great words to accompany it, as well. You are so talented...and such a loving mother. Your son is so blessed.

2:25 PM  
Blogger amstar said...

yes yes yes.
sometimes I want to do this to creme brule.

I sure like knowing you're out there being brave and loving fully.

3:30 PM  
Blogger kath red said...

beautiful - knowing who you are is a wonderful gift.

thank you for takign the time to visit and comment on my blog - have a merry christmas.

3:43 PM  
Anonymous Marilyn said...

Gee, and I thought I was the only one who ate my pie like that... :) This made me cry. It made me cry for personally selfish reasons...wondering how differently my life might have been if only one person had expressed these kinds of thoughts to me as a child...and it made me weep with happiness for Britton that he's been blessed to arrive to a mother who fully appreciates his value...and thereby realizes her own. What a huge gift you are to each other.

6:42 AM  
Blogger andrea said...

beautiful, so beautiful. and yeah, that photo is so great...

12:06 PM  

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